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Tuesday, February 12, 2019

Domestic Violence

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 



Domestic Violence also know as intimate partner violence (ipv) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another person in an intimate relationship.

Domestic Violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from being or doing what they wish to force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, thats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms of domestic violence/ abuse can be occurring at any one time within the same intimate relationship.

SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Using Coercion- Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying property, abusing pets, displaying weapons

Using Isolation- Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, limiting her outside involvement  , Using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming- Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously. Saying the abuse didn't happen. Shifting responsibility 

Using Children- Making her feel guilty about the children. Using the children to relay messages. Using visitation to harass her, threatening to take the children away

Using Male Privilege- Treating her like a servant. Making all the big decisions. Acting like the "Master of the castle." Being the one to define men and women roles.

Using economic Abuse- Preventing her from getting or keeping a job. Making her ask for money. Giving her allowance, taking her money, not letting her know about or access to family income. 





TYPES OF ABUSE 

Spiritual Abuse - Preventing a woman from practicing her religion
Misusing spiritual or religious beliefs and practices 
Forcing a woman to act against her spirituality or religious  obligations

Verbal Abuse- A key feature of emotionally abusive relationships.
The perpetrator makes statements that negatively label a person, for example "you are a terrible mother" 

Signs of Verbal abuse- Name calling, continuous criticism, swearing and humiliation in public or private, attacks on a woman's intelligence, body or parenting, yelling. 

Sexual Abuse- Any forced or unwanted sexual activity. The perpetrator of sexual abuse may use physical force, make threats or take advantage of a person unable to give consent.
Sexual abuse mainly happens between two people who know each other and can occur in context of domestic violence.
Sexual Abuse has impacts on woman's physical and emotional health. It can lead to long term mental health issues, including anxiety and post traumatic stress disorder. 

Mental Health








Mental Illness - Refers to a wide range of mental health conditions, disorders that affect your mood, thinking, and behavior. Examples of mental illness include depression, anxiety, schizophrenia,  eating disorders, and addictive behaviors. Many people have mental health concerns from time to time.

MENTAL ILLNESS EXAMPLES

  • OCD 
  • ADHD 
  • BIPOLAR
  • DEPRESSION
  • ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOR
 SYMPTOMS 
  • FEELING SAD OR DOWN
  • CONFUSED THINKING OR REDUCED ABILITY TO CONCENTRATE 
  • EXCESSIVE FEARS OR WOMES, OR EXTREME FEELINGS OF GUILT
  • EXTREME MOOD CHANGES OF HIGH AND LOWS 





Thursday, February 7, 2019

Back Seat Action Published by Love Infinite




I inhaled the fragrance of her hair as I wrapped my arms around her neck inviting her into my space. She was sensual and gentle as she kissed my lips allowing the flavor from her flesh to marinate on mine. I lived for it. The passion was incredible. Each touch was magical, each moment was priceless. I escaped reality and landed on a euphoria of sensual seduction. She caressed my breast with her left hand and grabbed my ass with the right, while kissing on my neck all at the same time. Heaven was in my back seat and  the angels danced over me as I indulged in the bliss before me. Her fingers were like butter fingers, sweet and just the right size. I wanted her to penetrate the peach between my inner thighs. It was like a scene out of a movie.  I felt myself slowly submit to the pleasure when I suddenly stopped myself and pulled back. "I can't do this" I said to her as she began to suck on my nipples. "Why, what's wrong? You don't like the way I touch you?"  She said to me in a soft seductive tone. "It's not that" I said holding back sounds of pleasure, "it's just that I think we should wait. I'm not ready to let you inside of her yet." "Are you sure?" She said as she looked up at me running her tongue across my nipple." I let out a loud moan exposing how good she was making me feel. "You seem to be enjoying me quite a bit." She said, she then whispered to me..just let me kiss it." "My legs got weaker. Just the thought of her touching it excited me. "Mmm, I can't. Maybe some other time." I told her. She looked at me and laughed. "Okay, I respect that. I'm patient. I can wait. Just know that when I get it, its mine." She looked me deep in to my eyes, I could see the passion burn inside of her. It was contagious. It ignited a flame in me. I didn't know what it was I was feeling but I felt something. It was dangerous.

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